"Transmission"

Response to: Are Teachers Undesirable? by ah^kam_koko'
It’s probably better if you read the original article first.

[Female teacher]

Part 1: Female teachers as wives (Yeay!) *note: self promotion*

Just to start a story, let me tell you all about a dream. I used to wish that I can be a pilot, or someone related like an aeronautical engineer. But then fate brought me to this course instead: TESL. Fully sponsored—which was the biggest reason I took this course (mom couldn’t afford to get me into uni-school without scholarship).

It took some time for me to digest that I was to be a teacher. Most of my friends and old folks in my family told me some points on why ‘being teachers’ are the best suited profession for females. The list includes somewhat the same things that have been listed by the author of this article on why female teachers are desirable as wives.

But my decision to go ahead with the course *and eventually become a teacher* is not related at all to those points. That’s a different story, though. But the point here is; I agree with the points in the list. And I like to add that time is something that teachers have and this is totally a plus point for wives in terms of husband pleasing, child caring and home making.

Yes, I agree that teachers actually have so much more workload than what most people thought but to compare teachers with other professions, I think we do have that stable/predictable working time, less office hours, and more holidays. Thus allowing us more time for home.

Part 2: The (once) Ideal Husband

[Lawyer?]

Due to the nature of my original dream; it’s only natural that I’d wish to marry a pilot or an engineer. Hehe. And to tell you the truth, at first I thought that a male teacher wouldn’t suit as a husband for me.

Maybe it was because of (primarily) the need of having someone with a higher ranking in professional sense. Higher ranking as in, for instance, being a pilot and engineers are somewhat more respected in our society. Yes, I care[d] what people say. And anyway, their pay is (usually) higher than a teacher’s.

Plus, because of the fact that I am a (soon-to-be) teacher, I preferred someone who is from a different field. Someone who can bring home different stories unrelated to school politics and hopefully stories that I hoped I brought home. Stories related to my once dream profession...Even I didn’t get the chance to feel how it is to be an architect (for example), at least I can share it from my husband.

But then came a time when I was heartbroken to realize such men from such professions lack one thing: time (this is just a narrow, over-generalization opinion). Let’s take another profession as an example. A doctor. There’s a one incident when a friend of mine who is a doctor-to-be got into a discussion with me about having a doctor as a spouse. We came to one question: would I be able to comprehend the work schedule of a doctor?

I am a high maintenance woman when it comes to time and attention. So I said, no. I wouldn’t.

Part 3: Male Teachers as Husbands (?)

[male teacher?? formerly architect]

Therefore this leads us back to the ‘time’ factor. Similar to the female teachers, time is something that teachers have that other big professions don’t. So, there you go. One reason; tick.

Furthermore, looking back at my past experience, I think male teachers are generally desirable. I mean, we do have crushes on our male teachers while when we were in school. No? Maybe it’s because of their attentive-ness while teaching us? Or their charisma?

Other than that there are a number of reasons why I [now] may prefer a teacher more than a lawyer/doctor/architect/engineer… But as for me, male teachers are hot because of one reason (and he is hot only if he has this one reason) which is: he knows how to deal (in the best of ways) with children/adolescents (which in general are tough to handle); more so a bunch of them! And knowing how to deal with them is hot because it means that:

1. He knows a bit about psychology
2. His patience and tolerance level is high
3. He knows how to be fun/strict according to the situations’ need
4. His common sense is high
5. He’s adventurous and high in spirit and has positive attitude
   

Okay that could have been wrong. Many of male teachers who can handle children don’t even have those characteristics. They can be just plain mean all the time and still manage to get the kids straight. But oh well. Just putting my dream man’s characteristics in a teacher’s suit. But to a certain extent it is true, isn’t it?

That said, I think there are no reasons why teachers are undesirable just because of the profession. They are men, and I still think that a man’s undesirable-ness should depend more on his unfavorable characteristics than his occupation.

[occupation unknown: 'huh..please..']

He can be wearing a suit but don’t appreciate women at all except their existence; but he can be a farmer wearing rugged torn clothes and still is a noble and humble man, owning hundreds of acres of farm.

Let’s just get away from all the stereotype.
Thank you.

This is totally a biased written piece; totally from my perspectives only. So please, no offense to those with different wishes for a husband (or wives for that matter). One can ask so much to have someone specific as a husband. But in the end, we’ll always end up with the person we’re ought to be with; our jodoh—that is if we don’t end up alone.